Abuse

Abuse can be very difficult subject to talk about whether it is domestic abuse or spousal or any number of conditions. Regardless of whether a person’s behaviour is due to mental illness, abuse is serious.


Abuse can happen to anyone, it doesn’t matter if you are a man or a woman, it doesn’t make you weak and it is not your fault … Abuse is wrong. A person going through an Occupational Stress Injury (OSI) can be amongst the reasons for why someone is abused or is the abuser. Not everyone with an OSI will be an abuser nor does that mean they will become the victim of abuse but either way abuse is wrong and actions must be taken to stop it. People who are abused tend to blame themselves for the abuse or feel they can change the conditions. It needs to be clear that abuse is not the victim’s fault, and that victims needs to get away from that situation as soon as they can. In the case of when the OSI such as PTSD or Post Traumatic Stress Disorder is the cause of abusive behaviours, the person suffering from the OSI needs to take responsibility for his or her actions. And the victims need to take action to get away from those behaviours.


What is domestic violence and abuse?

When people think of domestic abuse, they often focus on domestic violence. But domestic abuse includes any attempt by one person in a marriage or intimate relationship to dominate and control the other. Domestic violence and abuse are used for one purpose and one purpose only: to gain and maintain total control over you. An abuser doesn’t “play fair.” An abuser uses fear, guilt, shame, and intimidation to wear you down and keep you under their thumb.

Domestic violence and abuse can happen to anyone; it does not discriminate. Abuse happens within heterosexual relationships and in same-sex partnerships. It occurs within all age ranges, ethnic backgrounds, and economic levels. And while women are more often victimized, men also experience abuse—especially verbal and emotional. The bottom line is that abusive behavior is never acceptable, whether from a man, woman, teenager, or an older adult. You deserve to feel valued, respected, and safe. (https://www.helpguide.org/articles/abuse/domestic-violence-and-abuse.htm)


It needs to be understood that OSI-CAN is not an agency for abuse victims or abusers, we exist to help in the recovery of people suffering through an OSI such as PTSD. If an OSI such as PTSD is a part of your issues that need to be addressed, then we are here to help you. If you or someone you know is suffering through an abusive relationship, then we can help refer to appropriate agencies for that kind of help … but that help cannot end with our referral. Behaviours have to be addressed just as much as the causes of that behaviour.

And if you are looking to help someone in an abusive relationship … (https://www.helpguide.org/articles/abuse/domestic-violence-and-abuse.htm )o’s and Don’ts

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Don’t:

Ask if something is wrong

Wait for the person to come to you

Express your concern

Blame or judge them

Listen and validate

Pressure them to act

Offer to help

Give advice

Support their decisions

Place conditions on your support


We at OSI-CAN do not see PTSD or Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder as a Disorder, we see it as an Injury you can recover from. If you are suffering from the symptoms of an Occupational or Operational Stress Injury, then a PTSD or PTSI diagnosis is not required to get our help.


Resources:

https://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships-communication/anger-management.htm

ABUSE

o HELP FOR MEN

§ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/abuse/help-for-abused-men.htm

o HELP FOR WOMEN

§ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/abuse/help-for-abused-and-battered-women.htm

o DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

§ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/abuse/domestic-violence-and-abuse.htm

· LOVING AN ANGRY PERSON

http://lynnenamka.com/anger-management/anger-management-articles/love-angry-person/



Our mission is to inspire hope and contribute to the continuous well-being and recovery process of Veterans and Front Line Protectors across Canada.

We seek to empower and encourage them to strive for recovery through peer and professional support while creating greater public awareness.

We at OSI-CAN do not see PTSD or Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder as a Disorder, we see it as an Injury you can recover from. If you are suffering from the symptoms of an Occupational or Operational Stress Injury, then a PTSD or PTSI diagnosis is not required to get our help



The target demographic of OSI-CAN are but are not limited to: former and serving members of the Canadian Armed Forces, Allied Armed Forces, the Royal Canadian Mounted Police and Frontline Protectors --- which include Municipal Police Services, CN Police Services, Emergency Medical Services, Fire Protection Services, Wildland Firefighters, Hospital Trauma personnel, Nurses, healthcare Workers, Social Workers, Animal Control Officers, Coroners, Indigenous Emergency Management, Victim Services Personnel, Emergency Communications Specialist, Corrections Officers, “Volunteer” First Responders, Conservation Officers, Aboriginal Emergency Services personnel, Tow Truck drivers who clean up accident scenes and their spouses/partners. This demographic was chosen due to the commonality of experiences they share through the service they provide to the country and community. We have a special interest and support volunteer first responders as they are not eligible for programs such as Workers' Compensation.


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